DID I STICK TO MY NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION?
I did! I am so happy to be able to say I DID IT! In 2018 I haven’t bought a single piece of clothing, shoes, bags, or anything else! There are a couple things I got as presents, but even accepting them felt wrong (I know it isn’t, I didn’t ask for any of them). Here’s the list of what I got as gifts from my mom:
-1 jacket (‘to keep me warm this winter’ because there’s ‘nothing in my closet’ haha, we all know how moms get)
-2 knit sweaters (exact same reason)
-a hat (same reason again)
-1 shirt she got me in summer
What I bought and I feel it doesn’t count, because IT WAS MY WEDDING, and also we decided to get married after I made this resolution, and didn’t want it to affect how I feel on my wedding day. So I got:
-A wedding dress, and a reception dress (both hand made here in Slovenia)
-wedding and reception shoes
-a silver ring I had made for sentimental reasons
-a golden ring for publishing my first book
That’s it, not an item more. I am so proud of myself for pulling this off. It feels amazing to know I didn’t pollute the planet fashion-wise (almost) at all this year! It also feels liberating otherwise - the freedom of walking through the city not feeling pressured to buy anything. The lightness of acknowledging what I have is enough, and I don’t need more. This year I really learned the difference between ‘want’ and ‘need’. And it is a lesson I sincerely recommend to everyone.
WHAT I LEARNED
More of everything doesn’t make me happy. The ‘new arrivals’, or ‘trending items’ or sales or whatever don’t fulfill me. Buying new stuff doesn’t make me a better person. It offers me a moment of happiness, but that fades quickly. The most important thing I learned this year is that we don’t only do ‘instant fashion’. We’ve applied the principles of buying new stuff, wearing it once, or five, or ten times maybe, then discarding it & getting more new stuff, to people. We developed ‘instant relationships’. When we stop finding people useful, or they stop meeting our needs and offering us satisfaction, we discard them, and ‘get new ones’. We don’t think about feelings anymore, because we feel everything can and will be replaced. That is what the modern fashion industry has taught us. And I think everyone reading this realizes just how terribly wrong that is. We have completely lost real touch with ourselves and other people. By ‘real’ I mean the fact that most of our daily lives is happening on social media, and that scares the shit out of me.
I will never be part of the big fashion corporations again. From now on I will only buy what I need, or what I really wished for for a long time. I will not give in to temptations of the moment I see a wonderful jacket, or a gorgeous pair of jeans. I will remain mindful about where I shop, and how much.
This year has given me so much. I am so grateful for everything that’s happened, and to myself for letting it happen. I am happy I stuck to my resolution, because it really has been an unforgettable experience that made me appreciate what I have, and the people in my life, so much more. 2018 has been good. 2019 will be even better. I am forever moving forward, and it is the most liberating thing in the world. I feel grounded and in touch with myself. And I wish the same for all of you.
Stay tuned for my 2019 resolution, it’s a really big one this year!!