Skinny, fat, tall, short, black, white - we are all women, we all have our worth, we belong, we fit in.
Sadly, we sometimes let society tell us otherwise; that we have to lose weight, have a pretty face, wear high heels to make ourselves taller, let ourselves be abused, accept the fact that we are not equal - that someone is always better than us. Well ladies, we've had enough of that. Because we don't need do lose weight, we don't need to wear tons of makeup to make our faces perfect, we don't need to hurt ourselves to appear taller, we don't have to tolerate any kind of abuse, and most importantly of all, we do not have to stand still and listen to someone telling us we aren't good enough. WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Our worth is defined by how much we value ourselves, not by how mush others value us.
We need to start making a change within, instead of trying to change society. Because in fact, we form society as it is and individuals really can make a change. So LET'S MAKE A CHANGE. Let's set up a positive mind, a positive attitude. Let's learn about self love and acceptance, and reflect that into the world, into society.
IT'S OK TO LOVE YOURSELF. IT'S OK TO ACCEPT YOUR BODY AS IT IS. IT'S OK NOT TO BE PERFECT.
And this is why my friends and I started the I Am All Women campaign. We want to inspire you towards acts of compassion, towards yourself and others. We want to show you that you are enough, that you are perfect the way you are, and that you don't need to reach, or even look up to the standards of today's society. Make your own standard. Our imperfections make us unique, perfect. Let's embrace them, and accept ourselves as a whole.
You can follow the campaign on Instagram : @iamallwomen. We will be more than thrilled to see you use the hashtag #iamallwomen, and tag us in your photos. Let's form a community, because when we stand together, we are stronger, we are society.
Have a beautiful week, talk soon!
Helloween is practically here, and I made the perfect snack recipe for your party! I was thinking about putting this recipe in my cookbook, but there will be plenty other recipes including pumpkins (hint hint hint), so I'm posting it here. These pumpkin spice muffins are super easy to make, and are beyond delicious.
INGREDIENTS (makes 12 muffins)
Have a beautiful Wednesday everyone, happy baking!
Good morning Sunday!
I hope you’re all well. Today I’d like to address a very important topic. I would like to tell you the brutal, honest truth about eating disorders. We have to talk about this, not only in private with our family and friends – we need to speak out loud. We need to raise awareness of eating disorders, because they are ranked highest in mortality amongst any mental disorders, but the symptoms are almost impossible to spot.
The most dangerous of all eating disorders are anorexia and bulimia nervosa. Anorexia is a disease, that as all eating disorders, inhabits your mind and locks your true self up in a cell buried somewhere deep inside, and makes sure you feel it’s impossible for you to get out. It takes control over your actions, decisions, thoughts,., basically it hijacks your body and does with it as it pleases; that is most commonly starvation, obsessive behavior regarding food, feeding rituals, counting calories, etc. Anorexia has the highest mortality rate at 5-10% patients die within 10 years, and 18-20% die in 20 years. The mortality rate associated with anorexia nervosa is 12 times higher then the death rate of all causes of death for females 15-24 years old, but with the right treatment the numbers can be reduced down to a 2-3% mortality rate. You can read more statistics here, but let me go on with the practical consequences. Eating disorders aren’t at all about food. They are about control, and they do not only affect girls. Anyone, at any time, can develop an eating disorder. It is like cancer; it comes uninvited, and it comes with the intention of killing you. But the difference is that for cancer there are treatments, there is medicine. We can’t say the same about eating disorders. Eating disorders inhabit the mind, which you can treat with all kinds of pills – none of which really matter if the patient doesn’t want to get better. Only the person struggling with an eating disorder can beat it, nothing and no one can do it for them. And that is why eating disorders are so dangerous: they take away the power of making your own choices. So the only way to beat the disease is by being stronger than it. By being more stubborn, by making positive choices (changes) every day, step by step.
Suffering from an eating disorder, as much as it is a mental disease, it takes it’s toll over your body. Now let’s clear another thing up: YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE STICK THIN TO HAVE AN EATING DISORDER. Eating disorders come in all kinds of form, from compulsive overeating, binge eating disorder, to being obsessed with healthy food (orthorexia), vomiting after eating (bulimia), to reducing your calorie intake to almost zero (anorexia), and the in a lot of cases they come hand in hand – especially with patients suffering from eating disorders for many years. What makes these diseases so very dangerous is the fact, that most of them are impossible to notice until they’ve gone too far (find some symptoms here). I have struggled for 12 years now, and within that time I have only once been dangerously thin – but that doesn’t mean that was the worst period for me. On the contrary, at that time I felt good about myself, 39kg brought me happiness, satisfaction, and pride. I could not see how sick I was, and that I would die if I continued with my behavior.
I was losing my hair and teeth, my skin aged for 10 years instantly, I lacked vitamins and minerals in spite of taking supplements every day; my digestion system was demolished from the years of overeating, eating nothing, vomiting, etc., so none of the supplements really helped. Even when I wanted to start eating again I couldn’t. It took me a long time to gain a couple of kilos, eating yogurt with a teaspoon, two or three times a day. And that was the time I WANTED TO EAT. I felt sick all of the time because of the stomach acid, ulcers, and chronic gastric inflammation. After more than 10 years I finally reached my breaking point – the point where I had to decide wether I live or die. But I kept going. I decided to kick the eating disorder out of my body and mind, and I kept swinging at it with all I had.
Now, two years later, I weigh 48-49kg, and I have a normal life. I made it! I live in a house with my boyfriend, we adopted two stray kittens, I have a job, am attending school, I survived an eating disorder. I am here, and I am here to stay. I'm far from healthy, I still struggle every day, I cry enough to fill the amazon, but I keep going. And every day is better. I allow myself to have bad days, weeks even, sometimes. I am learning it's ok to be human, it's ok to make mistakes, and most important of all, it's ok not to be perfect.
So here is the truth about eating disorders: they aren't glamorous, pretty, they won't make you happy. They will destroy your life, and the lives of people that care for you – you will lie (to them and to yourself), and you will do unthinkable, terrible things. But what is important is, that you know that those things aren't you, it's the eating disorder. You are a good person, to whom something awful has happened. Do not give up. Not ever, because you can beat this. If you are struggling, or anyone you know is, or is developing signs of an eating disorder, I urge you to get help immediately. Not in a month, nor next week. Now.
If you have any questions, please leave them in my inbox. I will be more than happy to help you out as much as I can. Thank you for reading this, and it would make me so happy if you would share it with your friends. This is a very big issue in our world, let's deal with it together.
Have a beautiful Sunday, I will spend mine with my family, and then maybe go for a walk in the woods (all the autumn colors, I can't even!). Talk soon,
I hope your week is having a good start. Mine sure is! I've had some problems with my health last week, so I was home a lot, with so much time to think about what I want to do with my life, the things I want to accomplish, and what I have to give, to share, to offer. There are changes coming, I can feel that for quite a while now. I feel the time is here to close one door, and open a new one. To leave some things in the past, where they belong, and move towards a new life. A life where health and happiness come first, for me and for everyone around me, a life where purity overrules wealth, where acceptance thrives over competition. This is the world I want to live in, and this is the path I'm choosing.
I will tell you more about my plans for the future in the upcoming posts, but today I want to focus on one thing in particular. I decided to publish a book, a cookbook. As part of my recovery from eating disorders I have discovered many new recipes, learned so much about nutrition, and tried out a sh**load of yummy dishes, and all of that lead me to the acknowledgment how much I enjoy to cook, to experiment and create new recipes, to host gatherings where I serve my grandmother's dishes, and her mother's before her. Now I see how important food is, I see it's not just fuel for our bodies. It's something for us to enjoy, and to enjoy the time we spend together having a good meal. There's no need for dinner parties with name tags, pretty plates with the perfectly folded napkins lined up with the silver. The joy of food comes from taste, the mix of ingredients, spices and, perhaps, a glass of good wine. But mostly the joy comes from the company we spend our time with while preparing a meal, and having a chat while finishing the evening with a fork in the pot of leftovers.
My plan is to create a cookbook with real food, for real people. No more Instagram diets, no more South Beach, no more calorie counting. I want to share with all of you my discovery why food is simple. Society made it complicated, and I'm here to try and simplify it again for you, because I think it's important we all accept the fact that happiness really does come from within. And a part of our 'within' is what and how we eat; because with food it's not only our physical wellbeing that is being nourished, it's also our minds - our souls, if you will - we are pampering. And a positive mind is the key to a positive life.
So let's start to see things for what they are: simple. We tend to complicate everything into oblivion, but now I ask you to stop for a second, and take a breath. The ingredients of life are pure, breathe them in, let them fill up your lungs, your minds. Accept them as a whole, without trying to alter them, and they will show you which path to take. Trust yourself to make the right decisions. If it feels right it probably is. Don't question positive acts, they can never be harmful; positivity breeds love and happiness, always keep that in mind. Do your best every day, and you will succeed, you will reach the goals you set, you will walk the roads you choose. As master Yoda said: 'Do or do not, there is no try.'
Have a good week everyone, talk soon!
I'm so happy about getting this post live! On Saturday we (finally!) hosted a housewarming party, and it was amazing. We had so much fun, and now our house is officially a home! I feel like I've been living here forever, I really love it. There's such a positive vibe going on, and our amazing kittens really warm the place up.
For the party we got a lot of help from the Smile Concept Store team, who helped make the decoration perfect, and from the Nutrisslim team, who made sure we had loads of healthy snacks! I think it's important to know that you always have a choice what to eat, even at parties. It doesn't need to be chips&dips, taquitos, and tons of candy. You can always decide to have something healthy to snack on instead, and that's exactly what Nutrisslim and I wanted to show you - how to make some healthy snack swaps:
CHIPS --> NUT MIX BOWL, WHOLEWHEAT GRISSINI, CELERY, CARROT
CANDY --> MIXED DRIED FRUIT
DIPS --> HUMMUS
CHOCOLATE --> HOMEMADE DARK CHOCOLATE, CHOCOLATE PROTEIN BALLS
SWEETS --> HOMEMADE PEANUT BUTTER CUBES
See? it's that easy. And the guests will love it, I promise! We all crave something else instead of junk food at parties sometimes. It let's us go home feeling good, not with a sugar overdose :D Yes, of course I will make blog posts about all the recipes, don't worry! ♡
Oh and a quick health update: I've been to the dentist today, and things don't look good. My teeth are completely destroyed, and probably beyond fixing. That made me really sad, but hey - it's part of my recovery to accept the damage I've done to my body. I beg you all, everyone who is battling an eating disorder: get help asap. Do not let things get too far, because when they do the road to recovery goes from extremely difficult to close to impossible. But I really believe it can be done, and I fully intend to do that. I want to recover, I want a good, happy, healthy life, and I will make it so. All you have to do is don't give up. ;
I hope you have a lovely evening! Talk soon,